I frequently think how is it possible and how come it doesn’t bother me anymore? 

From ‘unbearable’ to ‘be fine with it’ there is a big canyon that runs widely and deeply enough to make this discomfort doubtfully qualifying for disappearance in the haze of not giving a freaking heck. 

It doesn’t mean I do not hear the high volume of my son’s voice reaching tolerability levels or I do not care about him touching stuff in window exposition of a fancy boutique… 

It’s just about seeing it as quirks that slowly fade away, some changing, some swapping into something even more ‘interesting’ and challenging. It’s a matter of how we approach them. How we manage and ‘digest’ the comments and reactions of surrounding that, let’s be honest, often aren’t pleasant for a parent anyway. 

So last week, just to see how our quirks are doing from a numbers point of view, I started to list ours. The chart ‘ inventory’ is pretty amazing! And it’s a cream on tom of our family dessert.

This is an overview:

1. Singing loudly, anywhere and on any occasion – this is quite annoying socially while in some kind of public office or attending a meeting. His capacities are beyond doubts. Just the locations and voice intensity are often an issue.
2. Fruit seeds and/or fruit in pieces in a jam – make the jam simply not eatable. Always improving from day to another. What does not mean eating without a previous, meticulous check-up… 
3. Water and face washing – not an easy task to clean his hair and face some years ago. With a little help of a few innocent tricks like using mineral water in spray during hot summertime this part, we solved brilliantly.
4. Repeating whole cartoons, movies and books dialogues – a memory of our little guy is just unbelievable. He is able to recite all dialogues from a movie after watching it only twice. Acting is his integral part and I still remember when he started to speak after his 4th birthday, he was answering on my questions with whole lines of Pixar movies….Arrghhhhh…
5. Game rules ‘warping’ and creating – basically he never listens or reads any game instructions. He just goes for it and tries how the thing works and it’s astonishing sometimes how he’s capable of finding a new and for us completely unthinkable use and methods to manage the game. In the end, if he really needs, he asks for help obviously. 
6. ‘Green stuff‘ is not food – anything that is on his plate, it is green and touches ‘a good food’ makes the whole dish uneatable… Not neccesary to add the seasoning hate. This one we overcome with some pasta with pesto Genovese…Well, a brutal mother’s move but the fact is we have to push a bit all the boundaries to make the life of all of us much easier and healthier all above.
7. Cloths labeling – even if it doesn’t bother him anymore until now he always asks me to remove them, especially those attached to the T-shirts and underwear. Not a big deal actually, also his mom hates the labels!
8. Ignoring human beings – generally speaking – anybody. Not an easy one as he could be numerously judged as asocial and simply rude, we as parents – terrible educators naturally. The fact is that there is no writing on a forehead of anybody saying ‘I am non-verbal’. Nobody is ignoring anybody. And you are not obligated to explain yourself.

So don’t feel embarrassed of being socially awkward. Those who really cares about you and your family know, understand and accept all what’s going on, no matter a huge number of odd and peculiar details. Many people you will meet and some will became your friends. Many of them will not be at a height to accept all these eccentricities. Many will be friends which I call ‘of only one encounter’. But those few real, proven, which you can always rely on, will be few. A few but priceless.